FGI is moving!!!
For the next few days things may be a little quiet as I make my move to a hosted WordPress blog.
I look forward to my new digs..the look will be a little different and there will be some additions to content delivery that will be interesting for all of us.The website will stay the same and the posts will all follow to the new location so please just bear with me as I iron out all the kinks...
Thank you! And I look forward to seeing you at my new "crib"
Signed,
Management
Sunday, May 22, 2011
Friday, May 20, 2011
Favorite Song Friday
I was trying to think of a song for F.S.F all day and I could not come up with anything. The last two weeks have been R&B from the last decade and I could not continue on that path but I was not ready to go anywhere else yet either..what a pickle right!?
I didn't know what I was going to do--that is until my son got into the car after daycare and asked to hear the fish song - See album cover in Video - I happily obliged and that is how I chose this Friday's song! Straight from '82....Here goes...
For those that cannot view the video - Click HERE
I didn't know what I was going to do--that is until my son got into the car after daycare and asked to hear the fish song - See album cover in Video - I happily obliged and that is how I chose this Friday's song! Straight from '82....Here goes...
For those that cannot view the video - Click HERE
On the Way Home Today....
......I had a very interesting thought: THANK GOD I WAS NOT BORN INTO SLAVERY!!!
Before you start heee-ing and hawing about why would I be thinking such a thing, let me explain. This time of year, folks with allergies start looking for new noses on all the latest nose sites because the allergens are in full force. I am no exception when it comes to certain things, more specifically fresh cut grass and (more recently) cotton.
Let me explain further--driving home today, I had my windows down low and my music up high as I was trying to press my way through 5:00 traffic. When I reached 21st Street there was "white stuff" flying around everywhere. At first glance it looked like the stuff off the weeds that you use to blow when you were a kid, but upon further inspection I saw that it was cotton. Fresh off the cotton plant. Before I could really grasp what was happening there was cotton in my car and all over my black shirt. My eyes were starting to burn and itch and I had to roll up the window before one more piece flew in.
Now, with that being said, go back to my original comment - THANK GOD I WAS NOT BORN INTO SLAVERY. As a deep chocolate woman, there would have been no mistaking where I would have ended up on a plantation based on what we know of the field-slave/house-slave complexion divide during those times. How in the world would I have managed to pick one ounce of cotton with an allergy. I would have been done for the first harvest!
While it would have been my desire that none of our ancestors would have been subjected to the tyranny, the injustices and the oppression of slavery, I am so grateful to have not known that life. I am grateful for those that paved the way and endured hardship that I could never imagine. I appreciate those that died to escape bondage so that others could be free. But above all of that--I am eternally grateful that God chose a time called now and a place called here for me to live in.
I know this is not something that people typically think about, but it truly was my first thought as I saw a piece of cotton land on my hand, what if I had to pick this everyday? What would I have done had this been my lot in life. Lord knows I don't know but what I do know is that I am glad I will never have to find out....
Before you start heee-ing and hawing about why would I be thinking such a thing, let me explain. This time of year, folks with allergies start looking for new noses on all the latest nose sites because the allergens are in full force. I am no exception when it comes to certain things, more specifically fresh cut grass and (more recently) cotton.
Let me explain further--driving home today, I had my windows down low and my music up high as I was trying to press my way through 5:00 traffic. When I reached 21st Street there was "white stuff" flying around everywhere. At first glance it looked like the stuff off the weeds that you use to blow when you were a kid, but upon further inspection I saw that it was cotton. Fresh off the cotton plant. Before I could really grasp what was happening there was cotton in my car and all over my black shirt. My eyes were starting to burn and itch and I had to roll up the window before one more piece flew in.
Now, with that being said, go back to my original comment - THANK GOD I WAS NOT BORN INTO SLAVERY. As a deep chocolate woman, there would have been no mistaking where I would have ended up on a plantation based on what we know of the field-slave/house-slave complexion divide during those times. How in the world would I have managed to pick one ounce of cotton with an allergy. I would have been done for the first harvest!
While it would have been my desire that none of our ancestors would have been subjected to the tyranny, the injustices and the oppression of slavery, I am so grateful to have not known that life. I am grateful for those that paved the way and endured hardship that I could never imagine. I appreciate those that died to escape bondage so that others could be free. But above all of that--I am eternally grateful that God chose a time called now and a place called here for me to live in.
I know this is not something that people typically think about, but it truly was my first thought as I saw a piece of cotton land on my hand, what if I had to pick this everyday? What would I have done had this been my lot in life. Lord knows I don't know but what I do know is that I am glad I will never have to find out....
Tuesday, May 17, 2011
Wisdom: According to J. Cole
As many of you know, I love music. There has not been one time in my life that I cannot think of a song or two that could be playing in the background as I endure whatever situation may be going on. I don't know how I remember all the songs, most times it is a certain lyric from a song that perfectly fits something that I am thinking about or trying to express. Yesterday was no different, I found a new song to add to my mental jukebox.
While engaging in my various stages of Corporate Thuggery I found myself listening to my iPod that stays all the way turned up throughout the day. Somewhere between NE Heartbreak and Charlie Last Name Wilson was J. Cole. The song is Autograph off of the Friday Night Lights mixtape and one verse made me stop and think:
"Girl we grown so you gotta play your own position
I wouldn't say that you a hoe, just made a hoe decision"
The background is simple, he was fooling around with a girl who was already married and he had no intentions of "wife-ing" her. After the affair she no longer wanted to be with her husband but J.Cole was never in it to "sweep her away" The verse that I mentioned picks up after her husband forgives her infidelity and takes her back.
Now that you know the story, here is the line of the song that gets me.."I wouldn't say that you a hoe, you just made a hoe decision" How classic is that. Replace the words "you a hoe" with "you are stupid, ridiculous, foolish" and every other synonymous adjective and the lyric applies to everyone. How many times have you you found yourself caught up in a precarious situation (not just sexual but any situation) and before you know it you have done something of ill repute. Now, along with the act, comes rejection, bitterness, shame, or maybe even retaliation that was all caused by one decision. The good thing is that it does not have to define who you are.
We all make mistakes and regardless of what some people would have you believe, no one walking this earth today has a right to condemn you for those actions. The key is to despise the decision not the person. You are not ruined, a little bruised maybe, embarrased--possibly but life is not over because you did something that you regret the next day. Unless of course it comes with a 'sentence", then I cannot really say how things are going to go from there for you.
I know, it all seems too deep of a thought from a rap song, but it spoke volumes to me. I am not perfect. I have done things, said things and become involved in things that have made absolutely no sense. The only thing that I can do now is face the reality of those decisions, take "my position" and accept responsibility for my actions regardless of the consequences and know that in my heart I am better for it.
For those of you that haven't heard the song..Here is the link: The Autograph - J. Cole (the verse mentioned is about 2 minutes into the song)
While engaging in my various stages of Corporate Thuggery I found myself listening to my iPod that stays all the way turned up throughout the day. Somewhere between NE Heartbreak and Charlie Last Name Wilson was J. Cole. The song is Autograph off of the Friday Night Lights mixtape and one verse made me stop and think:
"Girl we grown so you gotta play your own position
I wouldn't say that you a hoe, just made a hoe decision"
The background is simple, he was fooling around with a girl who was already married and he had no intentions of "wife-ing" her. After the affair she no longer wanted to be with her husband but J.Cole was never in it to "sweep her away" The verse that I mentioned picks up after her husband forgives her infidelity and takes her back.
Now that you know the story, here is the line of the song that gets me.."I wouldn't say that you a hoe, you just made a hoe decision" How classic is that. Replace the words "you a hoe" with "you are stupid, ridiculous, foolish" and every other synonymous adjective and the lyric applies to everyone. How many times have you you found yourself caught up in a precarious situation (not just sexual but any situation) and before you know it you have done something of ill repute. Now, along with the act, comes rejection, bitterness, shame, or maybe even retaliation that was all caused by one decision. The good thing is that it does not have to define who you are.
We all make mistakes and regardless of what some people would have you believe, no one walking this earth today has a right to condemn you for those actions. The key is to despise the decision not the person. You are not ruined, a little bruised maybe, embarrased--possibly but life is not over because you did something that you regret the next day. Unless of course it comes with a 'sentence", then I cannot really say how things are going to go from there for you.
I know, it all seems too deep of a thought from a rap song, but it spoke volumes to me. I am not perfect. I have done things, said things and become involved in things that have made absolutely no sense. The only thing that I can do now is face the reality of those decisions, take "my position" and accept responsibility for my actions regardless of the consequences and know that in my heart I am better for it.
For those of you that haven't heard the song..Here is the link: The Autograph - J. Cole (the verse mentioned is about 2 minutes into the song)
Monday, May 16, 2011
So Glad to Finally Meet You....
Last week, I met someone very interesting. I ran into her in the Cafeteria and at first glance it seemed as if I have known her forever. We talked a little bit, and shared some things about ourselves that we have never told another soul. We laughed and we cried and we vowed to never lose touch again. I cannot believe that after all these years, all the different things that we have went through and all the times we could have ran into each other it finally happened. But, I was glad that it did.
I met my inner fat girl! Now, to understand what I am saying you have to first know that I am a plus sized woman and have been struggling with my weight for about the last 8 years. For some reason though, in the back of my mind I still thought I was not too, too big and since I could still use one seat belt on airplanes I was okay. I measured my bigness against that of fuller figured people and I would always say "see I am not so bad, I am still smaller than them".
Over the years I have lost weight and dropped multiple sizes for many reasons. To try and save a relationship, to get in a relationship and other random reasons that had nothing to do with my overall health. But last week something happened. My outer fat girl, and my inner fat girl both lined up and decided that enough is enough..something has to be done..Not for no dude (grammatically all wrong I know) not for anyone else but for me, because I am not satisfied with the way that I look.
Do not get me wrong, I love the skin that I am in, but I also know that underneath the skin is too much other stuff that will cause me issues in the long run. I am not ashamed of who I am but I know that the me that I desire to be has her weight under control, her health is in check and she can shop at more places than Lane Bryant and Ashley Stewart.
I say none of this to condemn you or to make anyone ashamed of who they are. All I know is that FOR ME - there has to be change, I cannot pretend that I am okay when I go into the mall and pass all the stores that I like but have to keep going because they do not carry my size. I cannot pretend that all is well when I fold my arms over my chest they are resting on top of my stomach instead of being held there using muscle strength.
What I can do is do better..I can cut back my portions, reduce my calories, head to the gym and sign up for Weight Watchers (I lost 50lbs on WW in 2007 but got rebellious and thought I could do it on my own). So come with me as I continue this Journey to a better me..not for you, not for some random "us" but for me..because that is the only person I know how to be!
I met my inner fat girl! Now, to understand what I am saying you have to first know that I am a plus sized woman and have been struggling with my weight for about the last 8 years. For some reason though, in the back of my mind I still thought I was not too, too big and since I could still use one seat belt on airplanes I was okay. I measured my bigness against that of fuller figured people and I would always say "see I am not so bad, I am still smaller than them".
Over the years I have lost weight and dropped multiple sizes for many reasons. To try and save a relationship, to get in a relationship and other random reasons that had nothing to do with my overall health. But last week something happened. My outer fat girl, and my inner fat girl both lined up and decided that enough is enough..something has to be done..Not for no dude (grammatically all wrong I know) not for anyone else but for me, because I am not satisfied with the way that I look.
Do not get me wrong, I love the skin that I am in, but I also know that underneath the skin is too much other stuff that will cause me issues in the long run. I am not ashamed of who I am but I know that the me that I desire to be has her weight under control, her health is in check and she can shop at more places than Lane Bryant and Ashley Stewart.
I say none of this to condemn you or to make anyone ashamed of who they are. All I know is that FOR ME - there has to be change, I cannot pretend that I am okay when I go into the mall and pass all the stores that I like but have to keep going because they do not carry my size. I cannot pretend that all is well when I fold my arms over my chest they are resting on top of my stomach instead of being held there using muscle strength.
What I can do is do better..I can cut back my portions, reduce my calories, head to the gym and sign up for Weight Watchers (I lost 50lbs on WW in 2007 but got rebellious and thought I could do it on my own). So come with me as I continue this Journey to a better me..not for you, not for some random "us" but for me..because that is the only person I know how to be!
Favorite Song Friday...A buncha Days Late
hahaha...In keeping with the label, I decided to not rename favorite song Friday, even though I clearly missed the day it was supposed to be posted..Instead I will pretend as if I don't even notice and post a song and dare you to care! (Smile)
Today's song choice is by one of my favorite male vocalist of this decade. He is a mix between Marvin Gaye (loosely) and Smokie Norful (forgive me Jesus) and I truly believe that he is a "full bodied artist" meaning he has the perfect mix of talent, showmanship, socio-political awareness and "fineness" mixed into one person.
(sidenote: @twitlicker83 - Every time you say Good Morning I am compelled to listen to this song! Your 2 words make a difference..every little bit counts! :)
So without any further adieu...
For those that cannot view the video - Click HERE
Today's song choice is by one of my favorite male vocalist of this decade. He is a mix between Marvin Gaye (loosely) and Smokie Norful (forgive me Jesus) and I truly believe that he is a "full bodied artist" meaning he has the perfect mix of talent, showmanship, socio-political awareness and "fineness" mixed into one person.
(sidenote: @twitlicker83 - Every time you say Good Morning I am compelled to listen to this song! Your 2 words make a difference..every little bit counts! :)
So without any further adieu...
For those that cannot view the video - Click HERE
Friday, May 6, 2011
Favorite Song Friday
Good Morning Faithful Friends..I have officially dubbed today Favorite Song Friday here at F.G.I. In an attempt to blog at least once a day, I thought a themed post would take some of the pressure off and be a wonderful medium to release my inner Whitney--pre-cocaine and prior to Mr. "My Preogative" Bobby Brown that is!! I will try to choose picks from all different genre's and era's and will post a link or a video to each song.
So without further adieu here is today's pick-- It is not a classic, nor is it the best song ever but...if you know me, you understand why this is my first pick (there are not many songs that a person can say has caused them to get in a fender bender -- don't worry the other car was parked and it was only a tiny scratch)
For those of you that can not see the video or would prefer to view it in a separate window click HERE
So without further adieu here is today's pick-- It is not a classic, nor is it the best song ever but...if you know me, you understand why this is my first pick (there are not many songs that a person can say has caused them to get in a fender bender -- don't worry the other car was parked and it was only a tiny scratch)
For those of you that can not see the video or would prefer to view it in a separate window click HERE
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