If Loving You is Wrong, I Don't Wanna Be Right...

....If being right means being without you, I rather be wrong than right... 



Soooo...I got a message the other day from an old friend that said something to the same effect of Mr. Ingram.  And I was flattered for a moment because this old friend and I go way back..Back to talent shows and SAT prep classes.  When music was real, and the only worry we had was college choice.  Anyway, I got the message and I had to really deal with some things.  First off, the individual is married.  He claims everything is horrible, that she doesn't understand him.  That she never loved him like I love him and it all sounded good for a while.  He called everyday, he sent wonderful songs to me, he wrote poetry and always had something great to say.  It was a dream come true.  Someone who knew me for so long that understood me.  Someone that appreciated my value and recognized my worth.  It seemed too good to be true and it was.  The first time I realized that it was wrong ( I know you are saying that I should have known when he said he was married, I agree and we all make mistakes...Dont Judge me!) was the first time in our "relationship" that I needed to talk to him and it was not during our usual hours.  I couldn't just call him or send him messages because his wife checked the phone records.  I thought about how selfish the relationship was, I was always on call for him and he sought me at his leisure.  That was not enough for me to end all communication, but it made me think.  I know I was wrong, I know my heart would break if I would have been the wife on the other end of the relationship.  After a few months, I broke things off and endeavored to let it all go.  A short time after that he announced on FaceBook that him and his wife were expecting a baby.  So the whole "she gives me no sex" thing was obviously a lie and I felt like boo boo the two headed fool!

Now...all this happened over a year ago but watching Fantasia For Real the other night brought some of the memories flowing back and reminded me why I let it go.  (See Interview Here)  Fantasia got involved with an allegedly separated man and to make what could be a long story short - it led to a lawsuit, a media frenzy and a suicide attempt.

I am so thankful that my situation did not turn out that way.  I was blessed to have a last drop of decency and good sense to let it go before more people got involved which brings me to the title of this blog. If loving you is wrong, I dont want to be right?! Who thinks like that, who does that, why is that an acceptable train of thought.  Love should never come with so much compromise.  It should never flourish in the face of someone else dying.  I get it, all relationships aren't happy and every marriage is not working..But if he/she loves you for real they will love you enough to keep your life drama free.  Call me when you leave the courthouse! Be ready to sign those papers! If not I can only assume that you are not as tired as you claim to be!

Fly is never fake...and that old "I'll Take Your Man" mentality has got to stop.  Who knows what would have happened had I not came to my senses.  I just know that I am glad that I will not have to find out!!